Did you manage the kids or did they manage you?
Just back from a week out with kids and friends and friends’ kids and I cannot sleep. The images of the week gone by and the to-do list of the week ahead clash inside my head as I toss, turn and finally sit up and start up my Mac to..what else, blog!
Our trip to Dharamsala included two couples and three kids- aged 9, 5 and 4. Quite a bit of our time and patience went into managing the kiddos and so I thought I’d pen down what worked and what didn’t. At the end of it all, I wonder whether it wasn’t the kids that had the fingers on the control buttons all along!
1- Kids are competitive, so comparisons are a no-no, even though tempting at times! Aadyaa and Maayra, the two girls aged 5 and 4, drove us up the wall with their constant competing. They wanted the same number of spoons to play with at each meal, they wanted to eat the same stuff, play the same game on the same ipad at the same time, outdo each other at getting our attention, all the time! All four of us were taking turns at getting irritated with them on Day 1 and 2. By Day 3, this was getting to be hilarious and I started noticing how much we incite them to compete.”Look at her, she is eating so well. Why can’t you?”…..”Look at her, she is siting properly in her chair. You also sit down!”
And so on and so forth. Within ourselves, perhaps, we are competitive too, I thought. And that’s why we need to super super let go if we are calm them down. As the vacation progressed and the holiday chill sobered us down, the girls seemed to calm down as well. Or our management skills improved, perhaps! Just wondering how much of our own stresses, insecurities and inner struggles we pass on to our kiddos unwittingly!
2- Never underestimate children, they are built to amaze! Rahul and me were enamored of the idea of trekking on this vacation. When we mooted the idea, Udai was super enthusiastic, but we were all a little skeptical about whether the girls could trek a lot. Aadyaa had managed a couple of hours of walking earlier this year at Ramgarh, but could we push her a bit more this time? So we set off one morning and decided to see how it goes and we were more than pleasantly surprised. The kids rose to the challenge and loved the adventure, even the youngest of them all, Maayra. Finding new paths to climb up, getting stung by nettles and recovering fast, drinking from a cold mountain stream- all these little thrills served to entice them to go further and further and we ended up successfully completing a half day trek without much fussing and with enough energy to enjoy the rest of the day as well!
3- Don’t shy away from using tech to keep kids busy, too-principled is passe! When you’re on vacation, you’re there for a break. So letting the children have a good go at the ipad once in a while is just fine, in my opinion. They do the same at home as well, or watch television, for a small bit of time everyday. I found that asking kids to share an ipad or iphone actually meant they found ways to cooperate, take turns and share. They taught each other new tricks, they exhibited patience while waiting out their turn.
Posted on June 3, 2013, in Personal and tagged active vacations, Adventure, children, day treks, Dharamsala, explore, hills, Himalayas, outdoor activities with children, outdoors, trek, trekking, trekking with children, vacation, walking. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.
You seem to be making most of the holiday 🙂
I am itching to go for a trek now.. School ensured that I would get my fair share, but now I am lacking in initiative about it..
I totally agree about the technology bit, the earlier the kids get comfortable with it, better it is for them (in a controlled manner, I guess)
This was one of those vacations when we woke up and did whatever we felt like! Fun! Where did you go to school?
St. Gregorios, Bombay
Really really nice pics. Especially love the ones of Aadu romancing the camera, and the one you’ve taken of Mishu and Maayra and Mishu and Hansa.
They are growing so, so fast. Especially Udai. He’s a young man.
You bet he is! Really had fun. Most relaxed holiday it was
Looks like a great vacation. Such a beautiful family! Hiking is one of my favorite things to do. Nature is so spiritual and calming. The kiddos will have such fond memories of this trip. What wonderful family time!
Absolutely. We did something similar in January- the grand mums, kids and me. Shorter hikes. Kids totally lived it. Hence the enthusiasm for this one.
And thank you for the appreciation!
Love Aadya’s solo shots…. so expressive!
🙂 thank you!